Noodles with Spicy Vegetable Stir Fry

2 tablespoons Vegetable oil

1 large Onion ; halved and sliced

1 cup carrot ; chopped or grated

2 tablespoons garlic ; minced

1 fresh hot chile (like jalapeno or thai) ; seeded and minced to taste

1 lime Lime zest

1 1/2 pounds Eggplant, Zucchini, or summer squash or combinatio ; peeled as necessary and cut into chunks

8 ounces any rice, buck wheat (soba), or wheat noodles ; preferably whole grain

1 cup coconut milk

1/3 cup Peanut butter

1 tablespoon sugar or honey ; optional

3 tablespoons Soy sauce

1/2 cup cilantro or thai basil ; chopped

Lime Wedges

Black pepper